Book Reviews
Cheating, and Infidelity
Danine Manette
Ultimate Betrayal
Suspicious of your mate? Read this book, November 5, 2006
Reviewer:Cindy G - Book freak "Cindy G"

This is a terrific quick read for any woman who thinks her mate might be
straying or has strayed. It's very funny and very thought provoking. It
does not tell you how to get revenge. After you read the book, you won't
want to anyway but you will gain something more valuable - clarity. Some
of her ideas on how to catch your cheating mate are downright
hysterical. My favorite part though (and the part I wish I'd done when I
finally confronted my cheating mate) was to always have a reason ready
when asked "what are you doing looking at my xxxx credit card bill?" I
also loved her explanation of how to watch for and how to handle the
"Jedhi Mind Games". This ability comes in handy in all types
of situations - not just in confronting a cheating spouse.

Enjoy this book!

Recognizing and Uncovering Betrayal, August 9, 2005
Reviewer: Donna Garrison "wise woman" (Toronto, ON)

If you want to uncover infidelity, this book will help you do that. It's a
funny read, that will give you all of the information you need to catch
them in the act. Once you've caught them, then it's up to you whether
you want to work it out or not...

An Investigator At Heart, January 31, 2004
Reviewer: The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers (see more about me) from

WITH DECEPTIONS by Danine Manette is a step-by-step, how-to,
investigative guide for catching a cheating spouse or significant other.
Written by a woman, either men or women can use this small but
informative guide.Manette, a criminal investigator by trade with a Ph.D.
in law and a personal experience from having been cheated on, goes
into great detail by laying out a foundation on how to begin an
investigative journey that culminates in self-reflection.

Manette writes with humor but pulls no punches when it comes to the
tactics she highly recommends. The contents of the book are
Recognizing Signs, Gathering Evidence, Confrontation, Disclosure and
What Now. Each content area provides a framework of how to discover,
if there is anything to discover, half-truths and lies. At the end of the
journey Manette brings it all home with the chapter on Self-Reflection. If
you have to go to these lengths, what does that say about you?

WITH DECEPTIONS will have your mouth agape, your mind spinning
and may have you laughing out loud at some of the tactics used to
uncover the hidden truth.

Reviewed by Dawn R. Reeves
The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers

Watch out cheaters!! August 8, 2003
Reviewer: Stacey W. Mattison from Atlanta, GA

This is a great book for people who suspect their mate of cheating. It's a
must read for men and women - It's humorous and full of excellent tips!
There is also quite a bit information to make you think about your
current relationship and how healthy or unhealthy it is. It's an excellent
read - you won't be able to put the book down!

A great and quick read! July 16, 2003
Reviewer: George Arroyo from California, United States

Danine Manette manages to write a "how to" that offers real world advice
in a concise and entertaining manner. In this book, Danine is painfully
honest about her personal emotions while offering the reader a straight
forward, easy to follow approach to discovery and confirmation of a
cheating partner.

At such a bargain price, I picked up the book out of male curiosity.
Despite the fact it's a "how to book", I found myself reading this short
book in just one sitting because THE ULTIMATE BETRAYAL has a good
deal of suspense to it. I imagined someone going through all the steps
Danine suggests which creates a sense of suspense as one reads
quickly through the book. Will you be caught spying on your mate! Will
your mate catch on to you!catch your cheating mate... And for those
who are cheating on your spouse, this book is probably a must read if
you want a half decent chance to cover your tracks!

Reviewed by: Waryheart 8/30/2003

I just finished soaking in the tub reading your book cover to cover! I only
wish I'd been able to read it seven years ago (not that I would have
listened to anyone's advice back then...) This book is awesome. Many
practical tips on gathering evidence and maintaining your composure. I
made so many mistakes when collecting evidence. The worst was that I
constantly tipped my hand in anger. And yeah, I always divulged my
sources to him, out of a sense of honesty and "legality." Now I see how
that hampered me... my H is a govt. investigator who is good at what he
does. So I have been dealing with the master of Jedeye Mind Tricks. I
have pretty much given up the search and am concentrating on getting
me healed... It is a great book! It is absolutely the kind of practical book I
wish I'd had years ago. The nitty gritty details really help me, a lot more
than psychological fluff.

Anyway, folks: The book is warm, matter-of-fact, and filled with great
details on how to snoop. The descriptions of cheaters' common
responses are dead-on. Most importantly, the final chapter asks the
reader to ask herself to do some soul-searching. You have helped me to
see that I do deserve better. Thank you dmanette for sharing your
knowledge and experience in this book! You deserve the kudos!!!

Reviewed by Sarah White 2/21/2001

The author gives a very insightful view into the mind of cheating mates.
She also knows how to identify with feelings that everyone has probably
had in one relationship or another. This book encourages readers to
examine not only their mate but themselves.
For guys too! October 18, 2009
By "Nick S. "Nick S" (Southern Illinois)

This book is for guys too. I recently got this book and read it the same
day, I couldn't put it down. I basically wanted some piece of mind that
getting rid of my ex because I thought she was cheating was the right
decision. After reading this book, I realized that my ex's behavior and
behavior changes were exactly what the book said cheaters would do.
At one point, it just bulletin points bunches of clues that are later
explained. I found myself saying yes-- she did that and that and that. I
have to say that at the end of the book I kinda felt dumb for not seeing
all the signs but I am really glad I know what to look for now.

Five Stars !!!!!, March 5, 2008
Reviewer: Seashells (NC, USA)

This has got to be the BEST book ever written on the subject of
infidelity ! If you suspect that your spouse or - SO - is cheating on you
- then you will never regret purchasing this book. The author is a
pretty incredible person, as well :)

Simply - the BEST - Infidelity Book - out there!!! May 9, 2006
Reviewer: Drifting "Sandy"(Carolinas)


How ANYONE could think otherwise, is beyond ME!!! I am not, a
professional book reviewer, so I speak only from my heart... I am a
betrayed spouse. When I first suspected, that my husband was seeing
another woman, my first thought was to run to the book store, and pull
every book off the shelves that dealt with infidelity and so I did... Had
quite a stack of them, next to my chair, and I spent weeks looking thru
them ALL and found that Danine Manette's book, "Ultimate Betrayal"
was and is, the only book, that truly "got ME" and "helped Me"... In
fact, she probably saved my life. Dealing with infidelity is a "roller
coaster ride at best and when one first finds out, the cheating spouse
will most likely lie, lie, lie, and - you - the betrayed spouse, will believe
them, for a while...making yourself feel like you are going crazy. Not a
good place to be... Ms Manette's book gave me hope, courage,
guidance, humor, and it's all condensed into one - easy read -
treasure cove - of excellent information! IF you suspect that your
spouse is having an affair, this book is for you. Do not purchase
another one, until you have read this one, PLEASE!!!

Simply - the BEST - BETTER - than all the rest!!!!! Once you start
reading it you will not be able to put it down, it's that good...

This book is definitely a page turner! February 25, 2004
Reviewer: A reader from San Mateo, California USA

I was hesitant to read this book, but found I just couldn't put it down
after I started reading it. The author explains situations and gives
readers a step-by-step plan for finding out if their mate is cheating. In
doing so, she had me laughing the whole time with her experiences
and suggestions for how to catch the cheater at his game. I was
pleasantly surprised at how the author sums up her experience in her
journey and makes good points about why we even put up with
lying/cheating mates in the first place. Now that I've read the book, I
definitely recommend it.

Educational and entertaining, December 31, 2003
Reviewer: A reader from Los Angeles, CA

This book is appealing on several levels. Not only a practical "how-to"
book with techniques to catch a cheating mate (by the way, they
work!), the book is also an entertaining read. The author writes with
humor and candor, drawing on personal experience. Also offers some
thought-provoking advice on relationships which was definitely helpful
to me!

A Reader from Oakland, July 31, 2003
Reviewer: A reader from Oakland, CA United States

Ultimate Betrayal is an excellent journey into the world of mate-to-mate
deception. Danine Manette provides riveting details on recognizing
and coming to terms with deceptive behavior from an intimate party. I
highly recommend this book and it's a must read for anyone dealing
with deception from any 3rd party source, whether it be an intimate
partner, friend, co-worker, etc. Pick up the book today!

Challenging and thought provoking...a must read!! July 15, 2003
Reviewer: A reader from California

This book is for every person who has ever felt betrayed. My guess is
that everyone has at some point in their life. The author does a
wonderful job of validating our feelings of hurt and confusion. It is nice
to know that someone understands our need to uncover betrayal. But
be careful, because by the end of the book, the person you may
uncover the most about is yourself.

Reviewed by Lori Jones 7/2/2003

What a journey!! This was good - having experienced what you have
experienced and then reading about it is powerful. You have put into
words every thought, fear, angry outburst, stupid act, etc.

I'm glad this book was not just about how to tell if "he" is cheating, but
really more about the self-destruction of ourselves in searching for the

Some of it is funny-having lived thru it, survived and all, I can laugh;
but, boy, were those some painful moments-you articulated them
nicely - I "felt" you.

Reviewed by Crystal Thomas 2/23/2001

This book is OUTSTANDING. The author gives excellent techniques
about catching a mate that may be cheating. The book also
encourages self-analysis and evaluation of what one may be doing to
enable" the cheater. This book offers valuable lessons that are
delivered with a sense of humor.

Reviewed by: Lisa in Canada :-)
Fantastic job!!!

You are absolutely, right on the money in all that you share/explain.
I'm 33, divorced, and RN......and though you'd think I had a couple
brains in my head (LOL), looking back, it's clear that I've more often
than not, ended up with men who cheated. Even my ex husband. All of
these past experiences have helped now, to fine tune my intuition...
though sometimes I find myself maybe being a little too suspicious/
skeptical/cynical? My friends and family have always called me
"Sherlock" haha....because I can (through too much past experience)
spot a cheater or potential cheater a mile away....and like yourself, I
must have PROOF! There are a lot of women out there who live in
denial......I can't imagine living that way. Life is too short. A woman's
mental health, happiness, peace of mind are worth a heckuva lot more
than that! Well, just wanted to let you know that all I read made perfect
sense, very easy to understand, very well laid out, very 'common
sense.' Bravo!